Have you ever noticed how TV shows often go from one drama or conflict to the next? And even if a major conflict has been resolved during the episode, another is presented right at the end, leaving you hanging until next time?
I don’t know about you, but at the end of a long day there is something really comforting about curling up on the couch and unwinding with Netflix. Getting so lost in a storyline that, 45 minutes later when it’s over, it feels almost surreal to step back into reality.
But there’s something that I have begun to wonder…
Have all the conflicts, pivot points, and dramas that we have passively observed over the years created a strange expectation on our parts that ongoing conflict and struggle are the linchpin of a life well lived?
This tendency shows up in a variety of ways; indignation, frustration, exasperation, conflict and anger, to name a few. I have been privy to witnessing a lot of this lately, which is why it is on my mind. (But don’t let my commentary fool you; I have learned many lessons the hard way myself!)
I think the key lies in our awareness of the dramas we create in our own lives. And while we may feel like we aren’t, we get to consciously decide how we interact and respond to the situations in our lives. We get to choose between conflict and peace, anger and joy, and understanding over differences.
Let Netflix handle the drama.
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A member of my staff recently gave birth to her first child. After taking six weeks off, she is making her partial re-entry to her career life this week. Early this morning she texted that she would be coming in today; back to normality.
I smiled to myself at the thought of her “returning to normality,” because while she is getting back into her work flow, her life will never return to what it was before. In essence, when she gave birth, she too was reborn. She is a new version of herself and will never be the same.
I remember what stepping into that new version of myself and life was like when I became a parent. When I returned to my career, life felt more normal, but I was forever changed.
But there have been other, less dramatic moments in my life as well. Like the moment I stood at the rim of the Grand Canyon with my sons and knew in the deepest recesses of my being that I could no longer (would no longer) give “all of myself” in my career; or the moment I silently called to Spirit to please show me what I needed to know to heal the patterns that were revealing themselves in my life…
In those moments, I looked exactly the same. My life looked the same. But I had subtly changed, which changed the trajectory of my life.
What we often fail to recognize is that it is most often in subtle moments that our lives are actually reborn.
Create them, recognize them, and celebrate them!
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